Beyond the Box

“Now that’s thinking outside the box.” – He said.

“I don’t just think outside the box, I was born outside the box!” – Part of a conversation I had with a sales manager a couple of years ago. 

Many a time I come across that worldly and over-used expression, “thinking outside the box” which is something quite an akin condition of the mind of an Aspie as well as those who think in inventive terms, the original thinker per se. When growing up and remaining undiagnosed for some 35 years with that typical feeling of being somewhat outcast or alien toward those who surrounded me my inventiveness and original thinking remained throughout as it does today.

However, I often considered that many who utilise the sentence, “he/she/it thinks outside the box” do so without any form of actual analysis toward the environment of mind that actually is, outside the box. When we consider ‘environment’ one is often subjected to pictures or thoughts’ processes of the physicality as opposed to the more applicable consideration toward an eternal vastness of thought and thought origin, the investigation original thinking originates from.

For me, thinking outside the box is essentially a thought construct seeding liberty. Liberty to me is to locate an independent path or paths outside of common societal mindsets indigenous to ones’ own perspective of freedom whilst remaining comparable to other’s self created entrapments and knowing with evidence that you are not like them. Freedom from internal boxed constraints or more often polluting factors such as, societal mindsets engineered by the vacuous existence that is herd mentality, oh yes, the herd mentalist, the plodding sentient humanoid so easily led by media, bought by politicians and subjected to by corporations (because the product must be bought, right?). It’s little wonder that original thinkers are reviled by the schoolyard bullies, feared by employers and ignored by politicians. Makes one wonder as to why this is? Doesn’t it? Or can you?

Always lead by example is what I lend toward being the best methodology of teaching, I wish to quash societal mindsets as these to me these are prison bars of fertility of the soil that exists in the great expanse beyond the box.  

Trial By Media

The face-palm inducing arguments I have had with persons who obtain their evidence from the suggestion of the newspaper / “news” broadcast astounds me to the intensity of their beliefs born of nothing more than sensualist type and literal band wagon magnetism.

For instance, say I come across a friend who introduces me to their son and I greet them by...

“Hey rockstar!!” Excitedly and ruffle his hair then a high five. Seems innocent enough,

Now the, err, “news” version.

“Whilst roaring at him calling him names, VisionGhost accosted a child and placed his hand upon the child’s person.”

Because of course, that’s what happened right? I have observed many who would read the latter and immediately have a drop down menu to conjure up all sorts of ideas yet only pertaining to one, that I am violent toward children as so many always choose the most extreme of all the options when in fact there exists only the one, the one the “news” wants you to believe.

I see it happened when say, a male celebrity is reported in the “news” by the story stating,

“Police were summoned to a call of a domestic disturbance by male celebrity’s wife!”

Immediately - male celebrity is a wife beating scumbag, he’s the enemy, online abuse ensues, facebook groups setup, calls for male celebrity’s instant removal from all sponsorship and so and so on and so on, turns out it was the wife who called because she was locked out and male celebrity who was watching a horror movie has the TV turned up too loud and didn’t even know she was there who her husband was being attacked.

Marriage

Here in Ireland we are facing a referendum, and the question is, should the electorate allow same sex couples to marry? Vote Yes or No.

I got asked, which way am I going to vote and my reply was simple, I’m abstaining from voting.

Why? Because I simply cannot apply enforcement of a notion one way or the other toward something in which I have absolutely no belief in, none whatsoever. Marriage to me is an utter farce; some maybe offended by that but let’s examine why I think this way.

Remember I mentioned liberty? Well here’s a thing, I believe in seeking liberty and freedom of the one in as much a capacity as humanly and socially as well as legally available, which you have to admit is becoming increasingly harder and harder to locate in this modern era; there exists approximately 7.01 billion humans on Earth, so if I was for pure argument sakes assume that an exact 50% split of them are female (I am heterosexual) is available for a potential relationship, obviously excluding those who are lesbian, not of legal age, not attracted to me or vice versa, other mitigating circumstances, so on and so forth, I could very well have foundered the potential for human coupling with millions and millions of females.

Now, going further, I believe in consensual non-monogamy, which in short means, allowing consent for your significant other to engage in sexual relationship with other people, be it regular contact or simply one night stands, etc.  Why? because we as a species are actually designed this way, males are meant to (spread the wild oats) inseminate as many females as possible, so, being that we have become the most advanced sexualised species on Earth this opens up a much wider playing field for, you guessed it? The ultimate freeform of human pleasure, yes sex, the greatest method to burn calories, enhance your immune system, create closeness and relieve stress, relieve depression, enhance confidence, oh the list of benefits goes on and on.

Furthermore, divorce, the most expensive outlay of any couple’s union is foundered in its collapse (which you must admit is somewhat ironic), keeping divorce lawyers rich and the courts with something to do not to mention the incredible emotional hardship, stress, maintenance payments, who gets the kids, who gets the house, blah. blah, blah.

Look, it is not my intention to doom all marriages to hell but quite frankly, when I examine the bigger picture I think with all the above considered, I shall remain as I am, a single man in a loving long term relationship who is free as is my partner to consent to the practice of mating without insemination for the sheer pleasure of it as we are designed to do without the contract.

The deeper reason I think this way is because, no one, repeat, no one to me is an object. Just because I used the word “relationship” does that somehow mean there is this invisible contract of ownership that somehow I can control what one does with her body of her own free will. It’s none of my damn business quite frankly. Yes I admit, having a sexual relationship with another outside his/her partnership born out of deception is indeed cheating, having consented sex with another which is in turn consented to happened by all parties is the jackpot.

Euthanasia 

This blog is becoming a bit longer than I had intended so I shall end on this last subject.

I was laying awake in bed a few weeks back unable to sleep and full of thoughts (yes you can imagine I do that quite a lot) when the idea of human assisted suicide entered into my mind and after much consideration a very clear and present observation of a stupidity occurred to me.

Personally I would support euthanasia in certain circumstances, in relation to quality of life being ultimately diminished to near nothingness as well as an incurable & terminal condition causing prolonged suffering until the inevitable end.

But what never ceases to bemuse me is how the courts, medical practice and those who oppose euthanasia are seemingly blind to the occurring knock on affect of their decision.

So patient A is dying, their condition is incurable they awake to a horrible daily cycle of suffering, horrific indignance and of course, an unbearable amount of pain despite the morphine drip. Currently we would allow these poor souls to go on meaninglessly suffering day after day, watch them waste away and eventually mortality thus takes them.

So here’s the thought, in that time, a country’s health system has spent perhaps, thousands and thousands on their “treatment” to prolong this pointless escapade when simultaneously Patient B has occurred a condition in which a cure has been found and a therapy is workable to either treat or rid completely and return Patient B to pain free normality but is turned away to die and why? Because the treatment sought is too expensive; now I don’t about you, but that picture is an embellishment of insanity.

Summarising, keep terminally ill patients alive until inevitable death at the cost of millions yet turn away curable patients because their treatment is too expensive. Please tell me I am not the only one that can see what is most seriously wrong with that picture?

Pharmaceutical industries as they say, don’t create cures, they create customers, makes one wonder.

Thank you for reading.

VisionGhost

Herd Mentality Autonomous Denialism

This is one of those times when the realist comes out of me, I am an Aspie, let’s face it, I am an “Alien to the Ignorant” <-- we’ll come back to that later. 

I want to offer a perspective within perspectives in the following scenarios to address how easy society is to be intrinsically enveloped into habitual behaviours that even the persons within said society can’t answer as to why they behave in this manner which creates a huge barrier to acceptance, originality or perspective.

So, here are three scenarios of which within only two words will reverse the entire outlook of the moment...

Scenario 1

Think of your best friend, male or female, they’re going to be accosted, attacked, kidnapped and subject to unbelievable physical torture, experimentation and then they are going to be sexually interfered with and possibly raped. To that end they will be subject to drug abuse to paralyse and cause psychedelic confusion if not complete memory loss. Your friend calls you in total distress, they are having nightmares, flash backs and have scars they can’t explain; but you just laughed at them, I mean come on, isn’t this just utterly hilarious, their pain, their torture, their suffering is so profoundly funny because this is a scenario of, (two words), alien abduction – suddenly kidnap, torture and rape is funny!

Scenario 2

Their child is on life support and on the brink of death, this virus is invasive and caused a horrific rash and multiple organ failures throughout the body as doctors take his/her temperature, open up manuals and try in utter desperation as the virus pervades into the spinal column and eventually the brain causing almost certain death if not irreversible brain damage from the measles pathogen that has overcome his/her tiny body but hey, the parents are so relieved, so absolute in their decisions to let their little one go through this as god forbid, autism could have been the risk, as after all they were (two words) anti-vaxxers!

Scenario 3

“Phew!” Thought the equal opportunities employer, he cracks his/her knuckles and leans back in his/her leather executive office chair, the last candidate is long since gone and by word he/she would have been perfect for the job, dedicated, loyal, well researched and qualified, several years experience and with the outside of the box thinking the company was looking for; I mean come one, the boss could never have employed such a person, never in a million years, come on, they admitted to having, (two words) Asperger Syndrome!

Now whether or not one’s eyes are rolling at the sincere inference of the above being some left wing lecture in equality and acceptance remains a debate only you can solve, but the point to all the above is simply this...

That Neurotypical herd mentality has a unique self defeating contradictory behavioural trait, where within you champion the one who says “fuck the establishment” you congratulate the one who speaks of uniqueness, you hold in mental high regard the one who speaks of equality and you worship the idealism the thought of individualism...

But yet, god forbid I, as an Aspie, be the individual you claim to adore because the raw truth remains, that you are terrified of the very thing you pretend to respect the most.  

The moment you are presented with the absolute exterior perspective, behaviour or conditioning outside of what you understand then immediate ridicule, bullying and destruction ensues in whatever format that may be fathomed. 

Is it little wonder so many Autistics and Aspergians are bullied at school, fail at job interviews and seldom make close friends? Before one can embrace equality one must rid themselves of all interior perspectives to a complete inner absolution of neutrality, only then can you truly practice what you preach and only then can the thinker external of the box be seen for the qualities that they possess.

We the Autistics and Aspergians are not the failure, you are, via your Neurotypical herd mentality autonomous denialism!

Only in recent days, a group of football hooligans rejected a black man from entering the train and started singing,

“We’re racist, we’re racist and that’s the way we like it!”

Now, I watched that video on Sky News (yes I am well aware of the inaccuracy for the validity of news stories from Sky News) the train load of yobs were singing along and when I saw their faces the grey matter most certainly was not active as they barrr, barrrr, barrrr, like a bunch of sheep in a pen where they belong; BUT don’t forget the back guy – he was noticed when on camera he became a victim of injustice, prejudice and racism.

We, the Aspies, are invisible from your perspectives, so the next time someone seems to speak clichés as if they are true, the one who talks with an external perspective, the one who seems to have the answers correct but spoken in a manner  that is not instantly cordial to the common normality well, you may just have an Aspie on your hands, which means with just a little understand could be the best implementation to your company, cause or function.

Now tell me, do you truly worship individuality? Stop fearing the individual and embrace what you preach!

Now, I mentioned “Alien to the Ignorant” <--- Back at the top!!

It was a title to a poem my partner of some five and a half years post date of this blog has been with me, it hasn’t been easy, there’s been plenty of ups and downs but no divorce, but Denise “Little Pixie” Ryan, an award winning poet wrote a poem especially for me and it is as follows...

Alien to the Ignorant

You are the furthest star

opulent in the universe -

no spaceship could ever

possibly reach,

but I succeeded in the journey

because

I believe in what you teach.

Love, soaked in purity,

integrity in your persuasion

require not physics or

mathematical equations.

A galaxy on earth, such

human endeavour

emotionally formed, poetically

clever.

Neither space nor time, just

this moment forever.

My cosmic soul – an

astronomers treasure.

By Denise Ryan

If Denise can get it right, what the hell is your excuse?

Thank you for reading.

VisionGhost

Feminism – A Lost Perspective

“And we’re mercilessly picked on, white, heterosexual males, we are the only species you can openly pick on and they’ll be no demonstration.” – Billy Connolly.  

There was a time, from the latter end of the nineteenth century to the latter twentieth century; that feminism, was a movement full of pride, dignity, courage, diplomacy and above all else, effectiveness; it was a movement that upon the texts of historic literature makes one think in awe of the amazing bravery and strength of the first feminist movements; from the Suffragettes and beyond.  They risked their lives and livelihoods; stood up against far right tyranny and demanded a better way of life for women; it was as excellent as it was correct to do so.

However, in recent years something has gone horribly wrong; even now as we speak, all over the world, the word “feminism” makes men AND women roll their eyes, find something witty to say or else disregard it as hopeless, overly emotive movement whose lost their direction and fallen foul of a passion wholly ungoverned in their quest for equality; it is hardly surprising when in recent years the incidences of feminist (radical or otherwise) behaviour leaves one, certainly me and many others I know, with a feeling of complete disbelief.

Now, before we go anywhere further let it be known, I am strictly Anti-Feminist in it's present form, I see myself as an, “Equalitist Realist” - one whom wants equality in as many forms as possible but know where the line is drawn for those who can have it, (would it be equality if a paedophile demanded marriage rights to put a ring on the finger of a nine year old?) and the line where drawn as to the methodology of how we obtain that equality.  I disagree somewhat with a lot of what feminism stands for and their actions and words of late leave much to be desired. 

To try and make this as concise and to the point as possible I am going to have to break it all down to bite size so bear with me.  I think it would be best to understand that I will of course try to remain as fair and respectful as possible.  First off, what is this thing, Misogyny?

This word, Misogyny or Misogynist is being thrown around like a preverbal rugby ball. As if every restaurant on the high street can be labelled a Bistro; all too often modern day feminists label every man who disagrees, opposes or else simply doesn’t see eye to eye on every notion as laid out, then out it comes, that person is automatically labelled as “sexist” “misogynist” “pig” amongst other such colourful titles.

So picture this, I am a man/woman who has a problem with you, I wish to bring this to your attention and I do so by throwing a temper tantrum in your direction, when you disagree with this chosen course of action I go further by calling you nasty names and planting false labels upon you, failing that I will attack you physically.  Now really, is that ever going to work? How would you feel?  Would you listen to me? Would you tolerate me and hear my argument? Of course not, violence is never the answer unless via legitimate self defence against a physical aggressor; diplomacy and democratic communication is always the most thoroughly effective methodology to be utilised to complete exhaustion first. 

Moving on, I must admit I agree with many a feminist when they say that domestic violence against women should stop; of course it should, however, there are three points to be raised here, firstly the obvious one that domestic violence is not only inflicted upon women and secondly, if feminist really spoke for equality then the call shouldn't be,

“Domestic violence against women should stop.”

It should be...

“Domestic violence in all forms should stop.”

Then there is the third point; this is where I feel feminism is a little confusing, very recently the most excellent actor and activist Patrick Stewart and Jackson Katz both have unequivocally stated that this is very much also a men’s problem to aid the cessation of domestic violence; Feminists applauded this as did I and still do, however, when is it ever going to be compatible for us men to work alongside Feminists when the radicals say...

“We don’t need men”

That feminist proclamation is undermining, unhelpful and wholly counter-productive as we all try to seek a world far less violent in the home(s) all over the world.  All good men and all good women must work together to condemn/end/increase awareness of domestic violence.

 

"This world would be a whole lot better if we just made an effort to be less horrible to one another." - Ellen Page.

As to my own views on domestic violence, go here. http://visionasperger.blogspot.ie/2014/01/domestic-abuse-lots-of-why-but-answers.html

OK story time; I guess it would be more poignant and realistic if I afforded some evidence as to what I am saying;

Last year at the University of Toronto a group called the MRA - Men’s Rights Association, were holding a debate on what exactly is Misandry, the debate was intelligent, calm and very well conducted as to take on a view that men and boys are being demonised in society; seems fair enough to me, however, it wasn’t fair enough for a group of feminists including young men as well, who arrived in utterly raucous style, making so much noise that the speakers in the room couldn’t be heard; events escalated when one of the feminists set off the fire alarms, when there was no fire which to the best of my knowledge is a criminal offence, the building had to be evacuated and when outside, the feminists launched into a tirade of verbal abuse against the MRA.

The incidence was further marked by one particular infamous feminist I think going by the name of Chanty Binx, that when approached by members of the MRA who diligently and calmly explained that they were in attendance due to the memory of their male friend who had recently committed suicide due to a mental illness but never sought help due to the social stereotyping of, “being a man” Chanty in response to this started singing “Cry me a river.” 

Now, this might seem amusing to the unaffected but to me I think that kind of conduct is disgusting, immoral and frankly spiteful; is this how women of the world would like to represented, because after all, "feminism speaks for all women," right? 

In the UK, the political party UKIP’s leader Nigel Farage was recently quoted as saying in reference to women working in the city and equal pay...

“If a woman has a client base, has a child and takes two or three years off work, she is worth far less to the employer when she comes back than when she went away because her client base will not have stuck rigidly to her. Young, able women who are prepared to sacrifice the family life and stick to their career will do as well or better than men.”

I personally would have thought that the above commentary was based on pure common sense; you may not agree with it however, a business needs to survive, businesses survive by investment from their clients, if someone isn’t there to essentially nurture the client base, then the employer isn’t going to see you as a productive asset now are they? 

And of course the staunch feminist Labour MP Harriet Harman retorted by saying...

"To see a row of men sitting there and one of them saying that women are worth less to their employers than men are because they take time off to look after children I think is absolutely rubbish; there's not a single business or public service in this country which would still have the lights on if women weren't there at work. And yes, women do an important role in the home as well, not least because men don't share equally in the home and therefore it falls to women, but women are vital in their work and I think that that is an affront to women in this country, and I just can't believe that he's said that."

Hands up all those who think Harriet has missed the point...

You have to be in work working to be worth something for your employer; in this day and age that is black and white regardless whether you are a man or a woman. And as for her statement, which might I add is riddled with sexist stereotyping, it also completely misses the obvious fact that if a couple have a child and the mother decides to quit work and stay at home in favour of her male partner working, then of course the household will befall to her. Feminists, unfortunately you cannot have it both ways in the working world, particularly in the corporate arena as money has to be made.

Might I add there was a further incident when a feminist physically attacked Nigel Farage on his way to another meeting and was assaulted with a blow over his head after his comments; diplomacy?  

An excellent insight to the matter is here 

OK time to wrap this up; I could go on and on about the incidences of radical feminist extremism, if you Google it you’ll find plenty and quite frankly, it’s a real shame and a failing on behalf of all feminists to not speak out about the abhorrent Misandry that clearly exists in your movement as well as the abundant lack of professionalism.  I did actually have a chat with a real feminist a few weeks back, who might I add was shocked at how bad the situation had become but said,

“I guess there are a few women and men who wear the feminist moniker and abuse it.”

For me, that’s exact to...

“You can’t blame the entirety upon the actions of a few extremists – now, doesn’t that just sound a tad too familiar, where have we heard that before...

Yes, that's right, I am indeed saying that radical or extreme feminism is nothing more than social terrorism which will serve to provide nothing but indifference to the feminist cause. If you wish to seek equality and bring about a fairer society via the actions of your movement then you must follow one very simple commandment...

"Thou shalt not commit to action speaking louder than words that contradict the words you speak." - VisionGhost.

Thank you for reading. 

VisionGhost